Shitty people saying shitty things

Monday, November 18, 2013

I'm writing this post without a title as yet because I don't know what title to put but have you met people who talk shit?

I'm sure you do. There are plenty of such people around.

Just a couple of weeks ago, I hung out with my mom, you know, just spending some girl-time together.

Background: My mom is really skinny and petite - think someone at 45kg and about 1.56m tall. Slim, fair and quite pretty. I, on the other hand, is probably tens of kg heavier than her and I tower over her at 1.67m.

So as you can see, I'm like an ogre while my mom's a little... pixie?

What an analogy lol.

So while we were catching up and all, my mom's friend came right up, looked at me, turned to my mom and said in hokkien, "Wa, why is it that you're so skinny but your daughter's so fat?"

"An zhua li ah-nee san, li eh zharboh kia ah-nee bui?"

First up, I may be bigger than my mother, but I'm definitely not fat. Chubby, maybe. But fat? Not really. I mean.. just look at me:

Fat meh????

I mean, I may have fat thighs but I honestly think to use the word "fat" on me is too exaggerated. I prefer the word 'voluptious', LOL.

And of course, I was highly annoyed. Who the f does he think he is to say that I'm fat? My husband who sleeps beside me didn't even mind me taking up more of the bed!

But this isn't just about how I feel, it's about how I react - which is exactly the post for today. How would you guys react when someone says stupid shit about you?

For me, I gave him a pseudo-hurt expression and I asked him if he thought I was deaf.

I mean uh.... you wouldn't say something rude in front of someone right? Unless you have no EQ. Ah, that probably explained it.

He looked at me, amused, and said no. He didn't think I was deaf. Then I asked him if he thought that I didn't understand hokkien. He was a little embarrassed at that point of time, but no, I didn't want to let him go.

He likes to embarrass me right? Think that it is funny to be laughing at me right? Luckily I am somewhat quite thick-skinned. Can you imagine how much hurt his stupid mouth will cause, if the girl has low self-esteem or struggling with weight issues?

You don't tell people that they are fat like that. Especially not when they are your friend's kids.

So I took in a dramatic deep breath and asked, "Then why do you want to say such hurtful things in front of a girl? Does it make you happy to see me sad?"

There. For once, I realized that I didn't need to be aggressive. Being passive-aggressive works really well in this case doesn't it?

He stammered a little something incoherent, then laughed and said that he was joking. I gave him a very serious look and said..

The end.

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